When the Person in Front of You Is Not the Real Wound
The first time she walked through my door, I noticed a beautiful young woman with an elegant presence. She looked confident, grounded… almost impossible to imagine that she was struggling with self-confidence.
Yet the very first words she spoke were:
“I have no confidence in myself.”
Then she told me about her work.
Her manager seemed to be constantly watching her, criticising her and questioning everything she did. Every day felt like walking on eggshells. She came home exhausted, but leaving her job wasn’t an option. She needed it.
As we worked together over the next few sessions, it slowly became clear that her manager wasn’t the beginning of the story.
The deeper wound belonged to another relationship.
Her mother.
Little by little, we explored the emotional memories she was still carrying. She began to understand where her mother’s behaviour had come from and how those experiences had shaped her own way of relating to authority, criticism and rejection.
Understanding did not erase the past.
It gave her freedom from it.
Something gentle began to shift inside her.
She no longer felt the need to defend herself all the time. She found herself speaking more naturally, setting healthier boundaries and feeling calmer in situations that had once overwhelmed her.
Then life started opening other doors.
She made new friends. She met someone. Joy quietly returned to places where loneliness had settled for years.
One day she came back with a smile.
“I think I don’t need any more sessions.”
Her manager had just been transferred.
Was it a coincidence?
Perhaps.
Or perhaps, once the deeper wound had begun to heal, this relationship had completed its purpose.
After more than twenty-five years of practice, I have witnessed this kind of transformation many times.
We often believe that another person is the source of our suffering. Sometimes they are.
But sometimes they simply awaken a much older pain that has been waiting, patiently, to be seen.
When that hidden wound begins to heal, the world around us often changes in unexpected ways.
Not because the whole world has changed…
…but because we are no longer meeting it from the same place.
And sometimes, that changes everything.
Sometimes the real wounds are not what we think.
Intuitive kinesiology can reveal real source of suffering.
I would be honoured to accompany you on your journey to discover it.
I offer in-person sessions in West Cork, Ireland, and online sessions worldwide.
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